Southern Girls Have Regrets

What are they and how do we utilize them?  The definition of what they are greatly depends on the individual you ask.   If you ask someone who has come out of a relationship of almost any type, hoping to be able to rekindle the relationship with better circumstances and outcomes; a second chance is the ability to have a do-over.    On the other hand, if you ask someone coming out of a relationship of varying types and all they wish to do is move on; find another option and take a leap of faith on something totally new; that is also a second chance. Second chances are not limited to…

This morning I found myself in the gym browsing social media when I came across the song Fear Is A Liar by Zach Williams.   The individual that shared the song took the time to ask those reading to make a point to reach out to people around them with a smile, a text, a phone call or a personal visit; you never know how these small acts can change a person’s life.  Take a moment to look the song up and listen to it, you won’t regret it. It struck me that I too often find myself afraid.    Not afraid of the scary things that hide in the closet or beneath…

To say that I’m a music fan is the understatement of the century.   If you knew me personally you would know that although I cannot carry a tune; the music itself speaks to me.   It simply touches my heart and finds a way to transcend into my soul.    It doesn’t matter whether I’m happy, sad or somewhere else on the emotional journey we all travel; music speaks more effectively than I ever hope to.   Maybe one of the reasons music is so powerful is that we tend to associate it with the events in our lives    Certain songs become markers of the happiest and saddest days. I’ll never forget the first…

“Forgiveness is giving up all hope of a better past.”  Jack Kornfield Logically we know that we cannot change the past.   Why then do we find ourselves trying to live in it, hoping and wishing it had happened or ended differently?  Our anger impairs our vision and we cannot see the need to replace the growing inferno inside of us with just simple peace.   Our exasperation fuels everything but the need to forgive. By forgiving are we not giving the person or persons that have wronged us an escape?    Why should they continue as if nothing happened when the hurt inside of us is a constant reminder of the grievous…